Four Life-Changing Lessons from My Thirties

Growing up, I always wanted to be an adult. Eagerly awaiting adulthood in order to stay up late, to hang with my friends all the time, to make my own money and have a career that I would be in love with every day. Unfortunately, it has not been a smooth ride; there has been a ton of ups and downs. Life is a wild rollercoaster ride you go onto at an amusement park. As much as it sounds like I may be complaining, I am utterly grateful for the time I have had so far, the experiences I've been through, whether good, bad, ugly, or indifferent. I am who I am today because of these experiences. There are a few things I would love to share with you in order to come to peace with where you currently are today.

Lesson 1: Don't Take Things Personally

One of the biggest life lessons I've learned is not to take things personally. You have no idea what others are going through; they have their own trials and tribulations, their own respectful perspective. When discussing life lessons, it's important to note that boundaries are crucial in relationships with peers, family, friends, and especially in romantic relationships. Your feelings are valid, but you also need to be aware of what others are going through. When discussing your boundaries, try not to react emotionally. State how you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. If you don't discuss your feelings about XYZ, it'll eat you up inside. During these conversations, no matter how they go, remember not to take the other person's reaction or response personally.

Lesson 2: Let Go of Societal Pressures

Stressing over societal expectations, whether it's about getting married, your career path, or money, is utterly pointless. Take your time to figure yourself out; there is no rush. Stop placing unnecessary pressure on yourself. We grew up watching rom-coms and observing our friends and family members pursuing their dreams the way society expects them to. This can mess with our minds, making us yearn for dopamine releases associated with big life moments such as getting married, having a kid, or owning your own place. These are fantastic life achievements, but they don't define you as a person, and there's no set timeline for when they should happen. Go at your own pace, and remember that what's meant to be will be.

Lesson 3: Embrace Self-Love

My favorite lesson I have learned is self-love. I never realized how important self-love is. During my younger days, I was always dating and looking for my soul mate. I thought I needed someone to complete me and that I needed to achieve certain milestones by specific timeframes. However, life didn't go as planned, and instead, I had the opportunity to travel the world, explore various careers, and learn more about who I am as a person. I am at peace for the first time in a long time. My dreams keep growing, and I am living in abundance. I've realized that I can create anything I put my mind to with these hands, my mind, and all of my heart. The gym and therapy saved my life, and I am grateful for everyone in my life, whether they are still here or not. Every day, I strive to be a better person.

Lesson 4: Embrace Change and Growth

Life is unpredictable, and sometimes things don't go as planned. It's essential to embrace change and growth as they come. Understand that sometimes you have to let things go and trust that they are part of your personal growth journey. In my self-love journey, I've learned that I can create anything I put my mind to with these hands, my mind, and all of my heart.

Incorporate these lessons into your life, and you'll find yourself navigating your thirties with more confidence, resilience, and self-love than ever before.

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